Here are some possible reasons why people think autism can be outgrown:
- Assumption that autism is caused by heavy metal poisoning which is something that’s treatable.
- False advertisements for treatments or “cures” for autism.
- Impression that autistic adults are supposed to look or act like autistic children.
- Impression that autism is only a childhood disability.
- Autistic people can get better at suppressing their traits such as stimming and using the right social cues.
- Revealed strong skills in certain areas may give the impression that the person also needs less support in other areas. Intact rote memory means the student can do well in facts based courses but it doesn’t reflect the person’s coordination or executive function which tends to be their hurdles in terms of employment.
- Stories about autism being cured.
- The autistic person received less support which reduced the amount of reminders that the person was autistic.
- The autistic person joined fewer special needs programs, clubs, or groups which also reduced the amount of reminders that the person was autistic.
- The autistic person mentioned less about his or her challenges.
- Chronic sensory overload may be confused with desensitization because the baseline was forgotten.
- Behind the scene preparations were overlooked. Having successful social interactions may be confused with actual improvements. Notice that in one example, a lot of preparation was needed for every hour of social interaction.
- Asking for help when writing letters or other accommodations may be mistaken for a lack of maturity or confidence which can be improved. Similar to the previous example, when I write comments, I need lots of preparation time to make sure that it’s in the right mood and has a reasonable amount of information. Why not have your job completed in five minutes instead of one hour?
- Tests don’t look at their real life abilities which means the scores can be average or even above average.
I used the Fitbit Charge 2 to track my sleep. It can actually report how much time was spent in the sleep stages.
When I was shopping for the Fitbit, I thought that being able to detect sleep stages was a strong selling point because it’s an area that I need to work more on. It was able to detect sleep stages because it has a heart rate monitor.
Here are the screen shots:
With accurate information about your sleep, you can find out what affects your sleep.
Ideas for experiments include:
- Number of steps per day
- Duration of exercise at different intensities or power or heart rate zones
- Timing of exercise
- Maffetone method
- Traditional base training
- Sweet spot base training
- Resistance training
- Number of days of exercise per week
- Workout splitting
- Brain exercises
- Nutritional supplements
- Recovery workouts (exercise intensities that you don’t consider as exercise)
- Light therapy intensity, duration, and timing
- Maximum amount of caffeine you can take without affecting your sleep
- Super foods
- Sleep aids
- Sleep schedules
How would they affect your REM sleep, deep sleep, light sleep, night time awakenings, and sleep onset?
If an autistic person’s traits are more obvious, here are the possible benefits:
- Clearer forms of communication are more likely used to communicate with the person, possibly reducing mistakes and missed opportunities. If I don’t know that a person is hard of hearing, I speak as I would normally until I’m aware of it.
- More heads up which can lead to improved support needed for autistic boys, girls, men, and women.
- The autism becomes less invisible.
- Less canned responses from the autistic person. If a person had autistic facial expressions during childhood, the facial expressions should still look autistic during adulthood when they really express emotions. There’s more than one type of smile. From Google search and other social cues websites, you can find pictures of them but they may only be reliable for reading non-autistic people even if autistic people can fake them.
- Increased expressiveness. Is it possible that the pressure to “pass” causes “flat affect”?
- Improved emotional connections or two way communication since real emotions can be expressed. Encouragingly, according to an example from an autistic YouTuber’s comments, even though she didn’t express emotions normally, it’s still readable! That could mean it’s okay to look autistic.
- Improved productivity as mental resources otherwise used for “passing” is freed up. In addition, because they no longer give up supports from the pressures of having to look non-autistic, they can reduce their hurdles even further! It may make the job more enjoyable because there’s less worry about having to look non-autistic every second in front of co-workers.
- Mental energy sparing. Autistic people tend to find socializing tiring. If it’s simplified by not having to “pass”, could they be less tired?
- Fewer misdiagnosis because of clearer symptoms and taking fewer medications reduces side effects which may mimic other conditions.
- Fewer unnecessary medications used because of reduced misdiagnosis.
- Sooner diagnosis.
- Asking for support becomes easier since more heads up were given beforehand which makes the need for accommodations expected.
- History is less likely to repeat itself. Being more visibly autistic can be a clearer reminder of the need for support, and free up mental resources further because there’s less need to consciously remind people of the challenges.
- Improved employment rates because if the disability is clear enough that the right accommodations are given, the person is likelier to do the job well. Encouragingly, other people with disabilities can work in a variety of fields. I don’t see why autistic people can’t when given the right support. A subtle disability doesn’t mean it’s any less of a disability than one that’s more obvious.
Here’s a list of 15 example of sensory overload experiences that I’ve experienced.
- Ring tones with bells or chimes on my phone seemed so faint and easily missed on the subway. It was likely loud enough for other passengers to hear clearly. It was also a new route that day after classes.
- I tend to be one of the last students to finish exams and labs in my courses even if my grades were high. Noises include air conditioning and conversations.
- Writing much notes without visual aids was very difficult for me. Noises include air conditioning and possibly running equipment.
- In group projects, I lacked concentration which affected contribution possibly due to high sound levels. I may have zoned out too much. The noises include running equipment and conversation
- While shopping in a noisy environment, I left an item that I bought at a counter. Things seemed unreal like in a dream.
- During and after shopping at a bike store after work, there was brain fog which lasted for a while after getting home. Noises include traffic and crowds.
- Leaving my cellphone on a cafeteria tray at a cafeteria at a ski resort. On the way back looking for my phone, I dropped a glove without noticing it until someone notified me of it. I remembered that things seemed unreal. Noises include crowds.
- While shopping at a store on my day off, my colleague pointed out the fact that I was still there. My brain was processing too slowly. Noises include traffic and music.
- At restaurants when reading menus, I tend to stare into space. Often, I order the same thing or my family members suggest what to order. Noises include crowds and kitchen activities.
- Taking too long to complete activities at home with a radio playing. Things seemed unreal.
- In a driving lesson, when the windows were opened, my driving instructor was concerned about my loss of performance. After closing the windows, he noted that I was driving better. When I drive, I make sure that the windows are closed and the radio is off.
- On bus rides, I seem to be able to sustain keeping busy for a short time. Noises include engine sounds.
- I feel that besides looking both ways, it’s very important to scan for turning vehicles even though I have the right of way. Sensory overload seems to make double or triple checking even more important.
- Easily overlooking bicycle brake squeals when commuting to work.
- Hardly noticing that a radio was playing in an office until my co-worker asked me whether it was too loud. Noises include typing and air conditioner.
That’s why I’ve been more conscious of the need for hearing protection.
I think we also need awareness of sensory overload for those who are more subtle. There are autistic people who don’t look autistic. Is it common to have sensory overload with only subtle signs?
I plan on wearing them in my future jobs because of the need for alertness. I feel that despite people’s concerns, the improved ability to concentrate can be actually be beneficial for safety. This can remove at least one more hurdle to employment for autistic people. What’s important is that important sounds can still be heard when hearing protection is used.
It was only in 2017 that I started using hearing protection to control sensory overload.
At first, it may seem extreme and and possible to outgrow it. That’s understandable because non-autistic people can’t test drive an autistic brain and vice versa.
I had many years of exposure to the sound sources that can increase sensory overload without hearing protection. That should have been plenty of time to get used to it.
Here’s my experience with a variety of sensory overload triggers without ear plugs during my full time education.
Elementary school noise sources
- Forced air heating
High school noise sources
- Bus cabins
- Forced air heating
College (4 years)
- Bus cabins
- Air conditioners
Outside of education, there were more years of exposure to sensory overload triggers.
Even after many years of exposure, I’m still getting the symptoms of sensory overload. Treating it may not be as simple as not using hearing protection. If getting used to it can cure the condition, by now, concentrating in noisy places shouldn’t be too difficult, and those symptoms should have disappeared or became only minor.
If I feel like I’m used to it, it probably means the baseline was forgotten similar to how how people who didn’t sleep much no longer felt tired after a while even though they were objectively tired.
I’m plan on continuing using hearing protection. Despite people’s concerns, I feel that it may actually be safer because I can be more alert which is also required job performance.
Hearing protection isn’t totally sound proof. Healthy hearing has a threshold of around 0dB. If the noise level is 80 dB and you wear both ear plugs and earmuffs which have a combined attenuation of 40 to 50 dB, your ears receive 30 to 40dB. You should still be able to hear. If there’s mild hearing loss, single protection or a lighter duty protection can be used to allow hearing.
As a high-functioning autistic man, I feel that some sayings can discourage support for people on the spectrum because they may make the symptoms seem normal, seem outgrown, or cause the condition to be underestimated.
- We’re all a little autistic
- Women are usually better multitaskers
- Women tend to be better with emotions
- Women tend to talk more
- Men tend to mature later
- Testosterone lowers empathy
- Everyone’s affected by noises too
- Hearing protection makes you isolated
- A lot of people are shy too
- Even non-autistics find it difficult
- You’ll eventually find one
- You’ll get used to it
- It’ll be outgrown
- I understand that its hard
- You’re so smart
- Autism is just a label
- Autism is caused by ___
- You don’t look autistic
- Difficulties with ___ can be affected by a lack of sleep or hunger
- HFA isn’t that hard
- Autism can be cured by diet
- Adults are better learners than children
Some of them may be true. For example, statistically, most Canadians will eventually find a job. The unemployment rate was only 5.9% in November 2017. For autistic people, that’s sadly not the case. It’s close to 80% which is a far cry from normal!
You may not even have to mention them while talking about autism to have effects. If we think an autistic man’s challenges such as multi-tasking, and reading social cues are normal, is it easy to overlook the need for support?
It’s true that men and women have differently wired brains. At what point is the difficulty multi-tasking disabling? If the impairment isn’t overcome by using reminders or it’s too disabling that they can’t even remember to use reminders, shouldn’t it be a warning sign? If most non-autistic men can easily distinguish subtle social cues but an autistic man struggles with it, shouldn’t it be another warning sign?
In general, women talk more than men. One important difference to note is that autistic people tend to feel drained from socializing while we hear about non-autistic people getting energized from socializing. We also heard of non-autistic people (both men and women) socializing for hours after work, sometimes even during the wee hours of the morning!
I think I needed more support than I was getting. For example, autism related support while working. I will likely need some form of support for the rest of my life because autism can’t be outgrown. In real life, autistic adults tend to have serious challenges whether high or low functioning.
Here’s a list of some of the significant autism related challenges in a high functioning autistic adult:
Hopefully, if we know our challenges, it can lead to better support.